The Pregnant Pause ~ with Bari Tessler

When my husband and I first got together 10 years ago, I looked through a mirror and saw a baby boy spirit wanting to incarnate through us….I typically don’t walk around seeing spirits, but I did that one time

I told the spirit “‘thanks”, but “no thanks “and that “I am not having kids this time around” and then I turned 38 years old and there was only one next step on my path and it was crystal clear….to have a baby boy.

I had been with my husband for seven years, and it was a surprise for him. We’d agreed that we were not going to have kids. But hey, a girl can change her mind, right?! So, my husband and I found a great therapist, and over the course of six weeks we were able to get on the same page again—this time as parents! We actually conceived Noah a few hours before our final therapy session.

Once I got through a very challenging few months of throwing up and very nauseous, where I was barely able to think or do anything at all except stare at the ceiling of my bedroom, I had a wonderful pregnancy and was very happy and content.

I got very big (gaining close to 50 pounds) and I was fat and happy and slept fabulously for 10 hours at night on my back! I was 39 years old and so clear that having a child is what I wanted to do and so grateful I did not let it pass me by.

Some people are long-term planners but I’m not one of them!  I tend to plan a few months, to one year, at a time. My style is to keep listening and opening up to what is present and then take one step at a time as it makes sense to me. So, my current reality has happened one small step at a time.

My family life and my work life are full of passion, fun, choice, creativity, depth, and growth. It means that at times I take control and make things happen and, at other times, I let go and allow life to just happen, trusting in its shifting cycles and phases.

Bari's lovely family

I teach people how to build their own bridges between money, body, mind and spirit. Along the way, we eat chocolate. We linger in unconditionally loving spaces. We find deeper meanings and follow clues. We develop conscious relationships with ourselves. And we move from feeling lost deep in the financial woods into our own custom-built log cabins.

An elegant way of living has appeared for me seemingly out of nowhere. But it was not out of nowhere. It had taken years of deep self-inquiry, gently looking at my own patterns, gently shifting them and exploring possibilities.  Those expectant months staring at my bedroom ceiling weren’t wasted time either. It has also taken years of professional experiences that didn’t seem to fit together -until they did. I am a wife, mother & business owner, and gratefully conscious through all of it.

[Bari is the founder of the Conscious Bookkeeping Method, and offers a Home Study Program, Private Financial Therapy, Mentor Coaching, and Wake Up With Mint Course, all designed to help you transform your relationship to money, body, mind and spirit.  You can find out more about Bari on her website here, or enjoy her free video course here only until October 20th.]